Kuwait's Confession Box

Confession 39 – *REMOVED BY AUTHOR*

In Confessions on April 29, 2010 at 2:46 PM

*REMOVED BY AUTHOR*

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  1. it would seem you are infatuated by her, it could simply be lust. you made a point to compare her looks to others. love is not about appearance, it is essence.

    if she knows you love her, you should confront her with how you feel. but be weary; this is a social stigma, what is to come afterward? assuming she does love you?

    we are free to love whomsoever we choose, but it does not always necessarily mean they will love us back. or atleast, not the way we would like.

    you have more than one issue here; it is not merely whether she reciprocates, you then have to deal with your family (and hers), and then you have the society to deal with.

    do you love your family? can you see yourself being emancipated from them, and taking your friend away to live far from here?

    it is a complex issue, which requires you to have a tough, one-on-one with yourself, to look into the future, and see what is to come. it is an uphill battle.

  2. Is she a lesbian? i don’t get what ur parents have to do with you being a lesbian..you know that being a lesbian and gay is socially unaccepted..so my advice is keep ur parents out of it or ur gonna end up with 7jab oo 3abaya and marrying a cousin…as a girl lesbian or not, girls have a hard time confronting anyone girl or boy about feelings. Do what u think is right..? studies come first, do u really want to be a bum in love?

  3. This is a tough situation, especially in a place like Kuwait, where homosexuality is not widely accepted, at all. I think that you must weigh the consequences of living your life freely, sexuality included. You are free in your heart to love this woman, and she is free to love you, but that doesn’t mean others are going to allow your feelings to be public or in their homes, which is disheartening, but the truth. Your sexuality is stubborn, unchanging, and though yes, you could easily marry a man and live a “normal” life, you will be trapped within a lie, and this will eventually cause you deep unhappiness and stress. I would wait to act upon your feelings until you are more independent, financially and emotionally. Causing a giant upheaval such as this, when you are dependent upon your parents, could have very deep consequences for you, depending upon your family’s ideals and strictness. Though I understand how hard it can be to keep strong feelings of love trapped inside, sometimes it is worth it in the long run.
    I wish you the best of luck on this. I hope there is balance and love in your life, between your family, and the person that you choose to love.

  4. im gay ,i feel your pain 😦

  5. @gayBrock am a girl and most of my frends are gay…hu cares i love gay they are so fun to be with and they can still protect you watevr happens…

  6. gays and lesbians are humans too…accept it or not you people dont have any choice that’s theyre life they can always do watever they want…

    to u lesbian…u dont need help from anyone…help urself to be strong and that’s it!

  7. It’s a matter of “Will my parents accept me?” “Will the society accept me?” It’s more like “Will I upset Allah the almighty?” You know, being a lesbian… in the day of judgement you won’t even SMELL heaven. That’s how much ALLAH refuses “lesbianism” whatsoever. It’s a matter of 7ARAM or 7ALAL. And this is, clearly, 7aram and utterly disgusting.

  8. Correction:
    It’s *NOT a matter of “Will my parents accept me?” “Will the society accept me?”… It’s more like “Will I upset Allah the almighty?” You know, being a lesbian… in the day of judgement, you won’t even SMELL heaven. That’s how much ALLAH refuses “lesbianism” whatsoever. It’s a matter of 7ARAM or 7ALAL. And this is, clearly, 7aram and utterly disgusting.

    • …..and who are you supposed to be, some kind of a prophet? Read a book!
      What’s ” 7aram” is how most kuwaitis treat their servants with low pay and verbal/physical abuse, that’s ” utterly disgusting”. So if you want to judge a person for their sexual orientation think about the other corruption that is going on in your neighborhood and I am sure you will realized that ” lesbianism” will be the last on your list for ” in the day of judgement”

      • sebepoopoo you strayed way off the issue here…ur not an underpaid philipino maid are you? 😛
        mu point is yes thats an issue but what does that have to do with elley or the confessor?

        So if you want to judge a person for their sexual orientation think about the other corruption that is going on in your neighborhood and I am sure you will realized that ” lesbianism” will be the last on your list for ” in the day of judgement

        wtf is ur deal? or were u PMSing?

  9. man….
    good luck!

  10. I say roo7ay igray quran w allah yahdeech 😦

  11. Shabab, all the guys that started talking about religion, i mean everything BUT disrespect, i completely respect all religions, I’m christian, bas i just wanna say, some people arent so religious, and by mentioning god allmight, and religion, it wont help them in anyway, its just the way they think, and we can’t judge them for that. So instead of trying to get them back on track with god, let’s help them get their life back on track, and help with problems, and i hope you dont take this as disrespect

    as for you, my lesbian friend, its alright. It takes guts to stand out, and proudly say, I’m homosexual. Is she also lesbian? if so, you know,i know its not the best of choices, but i think it may just work. Find a guy thats incredibly understanding (and im assuming ur parents want kuwaitis?) and explain to him the situation. Then in your parents eyes, you’re married etc,,, but you’re happy with your love life with your girlfriend, while he can do whatever he wants with someone else.

    It’s a really messed up idea, and involves unvoluntary adultery, but it’ll get your parents off your back. I doubt itll work, so ill just shut up now 🙂

  12. honey, it’s beautiful that you have a school crush, we have all been there. Don’t worry so much about the family situation, different generations/thinking and she can always be your dirty little secret. Grab her by the arm in your school break and ask her if she wants to have sushi someday and the rest will be history. Be brave, be bold and be proud

  13. Louka does make a point; a q80 blogger did once make an open marriage proposal to any q80 guy; gay, straight whatever, for the benefits. what he sez is not totally incorrect.

    it does however go against every teaching, so its not a moral option, get it?

  14. First thing you should know is that you are born in the wrong place and the wrong time (not mention a short circuit in your brain that makes you feel lesbian) and guess what there’s nothing you can do about it boooohooooo.

    Now the things you need to do. Grow up, concitrate on your studies and let this pass or otherwise you will regret it. Think about. Would you rather be lesbian and have a crap education and as a consequence a crap life? Or straight (and normal) good education and a good life?

  15. he paints a vivid picture, but Judgement Day is right.

    you are going against a stream. conform rather than ostracise yourself.

    and before you drop the L word, make sure you understand what it means. you seem too young to understand sexuality.

    have a real think as to why you like this girl, before condeming yourself to a life you cannot lead here, and losing all you hold dear.

  16. You know that apparently marriages between two men were, if not common, actually accepted in Kuwait about half a century ago. Gay people have the same needs and emotions as the rest of us ‘heteros’, and have always existed and will always exist in Kuwait as well as elsewhere. Deal with it.

  17. let’s be honest about this :
    sexual orientation – Does NOT include being gay or lesbian !
    what you’re doing my dear is Haram.
    stop thinking what people might think .. when you’re obviously ignoring Allah.

  18. good job bea, 2 thumbs up

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